Parenting Skills with Toilet Training

Parenting Skills with Toilet Training

by: mickey - 12-02-09 00:04

Could some-one just give me some Advice

ok for those that have read some of my post, You Will know my views on my Step Sister

she as a Three Year old Little Boy, who i love to bits, he is so loverly , he must have been sent to earth by a Angel, Ok he is 3 years of age, Still Drinking Tea from a Baby Bottle, Which is my first rant.

He requests to go to the grown up toilet, HOWEVER goo old Mommy tells him to use his Nappy.

I'm asking this question NOT as a Nursery Nurse but as joe Bloggs, So the question

Is it right he should still be given Tea , It's Tea he gets nothing else, oh hang on he may get Cola (GOD SAKE)

What do you say to someone, who lets their toddler use his nappy, rather than the Toilet, he asks to go, Thats the issue, but mommy , Bless her the lazy cow, does nothing.

i don't go to my mothers, Before christmas day i had'nt seen my mother for six months, i have'nt seen her this year, WHY because, i don't want to go to my mothers to start trouble, it takes me a long time to start but when i do, my mouth really speaks the trueth, and to be honest its a part of me i don't like.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE can someone advise me, I do Love all her children, Social services do nothing, believe me when i say they do nothing, last year she walked out on her children for heroin, my sister called social services, me and my partner wanted to take her children, what did they say, and get this

YOU WIL BE ARRESTED IF YOU TAKE THE CHILDREN, a week latter after a phone call and me seeing a solicitor, the head of the child support team said, i had every right to take the children if i thought , they were in danger.

The children were left with my 60yr old mother, who could'nt cope. Sorry i drift from the point , but i'm not sure what to do for my sister, she does'nt listen, in one ear out the same ear.

Sorry for going off on one, But i'm a Nursery Nurse i know what i want to tell her and i would be blunt with her, this is why i said, please give me some advise, not as a nursery nurse.

how good do i feel, Asking this question about my Step-Sister, i wish i could print out the replies i will get

by: purepurple

sounds awful for you but as childcare practitioners the first thing we learn is that the parents views come first. She does sound like a lazy so and so though. Just tell her how much money she would save if he came out of nappies, that might swing it! As for the tea in a bottle, I know lots of 3 year olds that still do this. 

by: mickey

Purepurple, i would like to say thank you very much for those kind words . God you are so right, she really is lazy, REALLY

She is driven by money, the amount of debt and trouble she is in, you would believe Tax and social security fraud, Claiming for children she has'nt or never had, been in prison twice and the way she is carrying on, she's heading back there.

The thing is The toddler does ask for the toilet, MOM is to lazy to take him to it.

Tea , So this is a OK thing for him still to be doing, the reason i ask, is. Should he not be using a beaker with to lid on it?

Purepurple, You don't know how ashamed i am, asking these type of questions, god My step-sister really needs a kick up the bum .

i can honestly say, I think she , thinks more of her Boyfiend or uses her for s-x and then kicks her out, than her own children. Do i have the family from hell, its getting close to it, if not already.

Purepurple , Thanks for your Help ,

by: Lolly

Sorry to hear about your troubles, it must be hard on you especially when caring for little one's is your line of work.  I am bewildered about children drinking tea so young from a bottle or a cup (so that's a new one on me).  With regard to toilet training your sister really needs to make the effort (poor kid) sounds like he wants to ditch the nappies.  However, on a general note from a work place point of view, I have come across parents who want their kids toilet trained but want nursery staff to do the training.  They send them in with pull-ups on get us to change them into pants, but as soon as the kid is back home out come the pull-ups again.  I think it's because they can't be bothered to deal with the little accidents or don't like the thought of cleaning up poo pants.  BUt obviously it's ok for us at nursery to do it because thats what they pay us for.  I think that in some instances it doesn't matter what the background of the parents is, when it comes to the yukkyness of toilet training some just want it to be everybody else's problem to deal with.  I hope things turn a corner for you soon.  Keep smiling.

by: mickey

DeeD Thank you for your reply, As for tea, Thats all the little ones get, my Mother is partly to blame.social service Told my mother and step sister to not give the children Tea, either listen though. With the nappy situation, it's  so hard for me to stand back and say nothing, and the sad thing is , Thats what i do, i used to give my advice, in fact she used to ask me, Fell on deaf ears... It's crazy, because i feel as though i let myself down as a Nursery Nurse.

DeeD when the rest of the family go down to my moms, we do get on her back, still does'nt work. i think it comes down to this, My step sister is so lazy and wants every one else to look after her children, Oh yea one other thing, she does'nt get up till about 1 in the afternoon, and so do the children, How lazy is this, surely this is a form of child neglect...

like i said, I have the family from hell,

by: mickey

i would like to point out , that at NO stage have i named my sad little sister, nor would'nt, it would appear YET again Nursery- world see it fit, to edit my post

freedom of Speech , ummmm

however my Views of my Sister remain the same, Edited or Not

by: leanne

Hi edited. mick.

Firstly I would like to say you have not let your self down as a nursery nurse. As far as I can see you have tried your very hardest to give your step sister help and support and that is all you can do, If she won't take it on board there is very little you can do about that.

Secondly he really shouldn't be drinking tea as it contains something (please forgive me I can't actually remember the name of the ingredient) but it stops people from absorbing iron into their system from their diet and yes he should defianetly be drinking from a beaker. Does your sister still see the health visitor, as they may be able to visit her and give her some advice and support on diet and toilet training.

I hope things work out and keep us informed. Keep up the good work. 

by: Mickey

Leanne many Thanks for you kind words, However , Nursery World found it fit to Edit my last Post, So I have to be careful, So much for Free speech.

i found out today, he as a trainer beaker, but it's not given to him as he makes a mess ummm. Also The Family have started to give him Juice, But yes the Tea is still free flowing, lots of milk and sugars.

She as Contact with the Social Services, for what use they are, I understand , she does Have a health Visitor.  The crazy thing is, the toddler is asking for the Toilet, and she brushes him off..

Leanne, I would like to say more by we have a certain spy in the forums, Say No names But take a look around and guess, Like i say and i know they will either remove this post or ban me from the sight, but hey, we will see what happens. But thanks Leanne for your kind reply ... Take care

by: leanne

Hello again.

That is such a shame and the scary thing is he will get to a point where he will just give up asking because he will realize that it doesn't get him any where.

I work within a health visiting team myself as a community nursery nurse, I'm not in the office until wednesday afternoon as I am on training but I will ask someone for advice on what you could do or someone that you could get in touch with. This little boy's mum really does need the help for her sake and your nephew's. well done you for not giving up, but I know when there is children involved it is very hard to do that especially when it is your own family.

Take care

by: Mickey

Leanne Thats good of you, At least then i will know who to talk to and at least get some joy, Yes Mom does need help, but she fails to listen to advice given, i think your right, he will start to give up asking for the toilet, it's a shame, But Thanks for your help Leanne