Please help. Bullied and Dejected.

Please help. Bullied and Dejected.

by: struggling. - 22-10-12 21:17

I am a Nursery Nurse, thoroughly hating my job at the moment. I run the pre school in a small nursery and am often left on my own as due to having a degree i am subjected to the 1-13 rule (however i feel this is wrong to be completely alone? can someone shed light on this as ofsted were no use). I am suffering from stress and anxiety due to my management being bullies and subjecting us to unachievable demands. Nothing can be done though as a family business. I have no time to do work and am finding it impossible to complete paperwork,  and i have 28 to do alone. I am at the end of my tether, threatened weekly, resources thrown away, my achievements belittled, university education rubbished in front of all other staff,and basically told i am no good with kids, and will be a poor mother as "not a natural but academic". i find this untrue as all my children think a lot of me and parents support me whole heartedly, some beginning to wise up to the lies and deception shown by management. I have had enough and it is not worth the workload and poor wages. can anyway suggest a way out or a path to follow as i dont particularly want to stop working with kids completely, but feel its the only way.

by: Jellytots

quit x

by: bagpuss

In the cheshire area? I need an EYP are you one? We are a family business but pay above the going rate.

My staff do their childrens profiles with the children who help to stick the pictures in and talk about what they did and what they can do now.

And a PGCE is the way out but I have been informed you can do it with a good colllege for a lot less than a university.

by: bagpuss

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by: Smallfry

That is awful. How old are you? Slave drivers! They are using and abusing you, mental abuse. All for profit and greed! You are worth better than that!

Do not put up with this treatment. Walk out straight away.

And formally complain to Ofsted, etc, get them shut down. Do some major whistle-blowing big time.

You have a right to be heard and respected.

by: Smallfry

You should name and shame the setting.

by: Janet

I totally sympathize with you and unfortunately the only thing to do is find another job. Your management needs to be on your side and support you. It sounds like they could feel threatened by your knowledge. Do they disprove of new ideas too?

I would try applying to schools as the teachers that are in charge of classes are well trained in what is best for children and would love an enthusiastic and knowledgeable assistant. You may even earn more.

Good luck x

ps this could be my story - with a happy ending!

RE: RE: Please help. Bullied and Dejected. - 25-10-12 00:00

by: Smallfry

Sympathise - this is not wrong America, they cannot spell in English..xxx

by: Tiggy D

I had a real rough time in one of my jobs. In the end I just walked out one day. I felt so much better!

Why not give a few parents your email adress in case something happens?

by: Smallfry

Otherwise, join the oldest industry, you have fun, get treated with self respect and make £100+ per hour ;)x no looking after other folks rugrags that cannot be bothered  xxx

best of luck and take care xxx

by: katmilo1

You have my fullest sympathy and I can only imagine how difficult this situation is for you. You could consider contacting ACAS for free leagl advice on what you can do to challenge this situation. ACAS deals with all sorts of employment issues and should be able to support and advise you the contact number is 08457 47 47 47. On the Ofsted website there is also information about Whistleblowing. I would seriously consider looking for another job where you will be valued more. It woudl be wise to keep a record/log of the unreasonable demands the employer is placing upon you as supporting evidence, if you decide to take this further.  

by: whmon

Smallfry - you are working as a prostitute yet you consider honest, decent nursery nurses to be 'slaves'???????

I am sorry, I cannot understand the rationale behind your thoughts.

by: Maureen Askew

do contact Acas and do keep a log of all instances of bulling etc, include dates, times, any witnesses/others present but do make sure you write only facts, don't let your emotions get in the way. keep it as accurate as possible and include any comments action you did/ have taken. above all remain professional at all times.

good luck

by: kirsty_footy

This sounds like my story! Confront it. They may generally not know how that they are treating you like this! Otherwise, tell the parent the truth and walk. Weigh it up. A job is not everything, with your qualification you can easily get another one anyway. 

by: struggling.

Thanks very much for all your responses, helps to know im not the only one! i cant wait for the day i leave, i will dance out the place! found a job to apply for today, just hope it pays off!

by: Kandy Flip

I'm glad your spirits have been lifted.

Nurseries can be difficult places to work at times. I've never had as many snide comments and unwelcoming behaviour as those I've experienced working in a nursery. To everyone else brought down by negativity at work and have it eating away at them, my thoughts are with you. 

by: whmon

Why don't you raise a Grievance Procedure with them. At least then you will then have all of their problems with you aired and you will know what you are dealing with. Make sure you have a representative with you who will minute the meeting. It could well be that their expectations were set too high and they expected that your qualifications would bring them huge results. This would put huge pressure on you from the outset.

My advice would be to research the problem with them as partners to the problem. If you leave your employment without finding out the cause of your employers dissatisfaction you may well find it to be a reoccurring problem, as employers will see your credentials as a passport to employing a great member of staff who can troubleshoot, raise standards and manage a 1-13 ratio in their stride.

I am assuming that your employers are paying you more than they are paying their normal staff - if so, this is why they expecting more from you.

I am sorry to be a disassenting voice but I think you may need to look at the bigger picture. Bring up your Greivance and get everything into the open. Your employers may well believe that they are not being unreasonable. If you think that they are then you must convince them otherwise - or be convinced yourself that they are not. Keep us posted and chin up!